You will be invited to work through 12 staged modules that are designed by an experienced sex and relationships therapist to support you to reconnect with your body and your partner. The modules will initially focus on you, as someone struggling with low libido and looking to address this in your relationship. They will take you on a journey through exploring your body through touch and sight, cultivating pleasure and desire, before supporting you to communicate with your partner and do a partnered touch practice together.
The modules will be a combination of touch exercises (to be done by yourself, and later, with a partner), anxiety-management exercises, lectures from our resident expert therapist, communication sessions with your partner that will encourage you to explore together everything you’re noticing and learning, and imaginative exercises focused on fantasies and desires. These are carefully structured to start with the most low-pressure entry into each exercise or topic, and provide you with the tools to develop the self-knowledge and skills needed for a happy, health sex life. We will also be encouraging you to have dates and find time for fun and excitement with your partner as you go.
We would encourage you to work at your own pace and be unafraid to repeat or stay on one module or session for as long as it makes sense for you. This will help you imbed the key ideas of each stage and feel comfortable with everything you learn before moving on. You can even move back to earlier sessions if you find this helps you, or repeat earlier sessions alongside later ones if that helps supplement them. Although some sessions follow on naturally from others, everything is designed to be simple enough for you to move back and forth.
Everything you learn and work through is key; there is no ‘beginner’ section where the topic is ‘easy’ or ‘unimportant’. Everything is a building block for what comes next.
We recommend working through roughly one module (each of which contains around five sessions) every one to two weeks. This will help you to find time for the sessions without feeling like you’re having to cram them in to your life and create more anxiety and pressure for yourself. It also ensures that the modules are not so spread out that the skills and information are not being regularly and effectively reinforced.
However, there is no rule when it comes to how long you take to complete this. If you find it helpful or meaningful to repeat an area or return to something covered early on, it’s really important that you do this because you are the best judge of what you need to feel good about your sex life. Learning to recognise and be open to your needs and what is or isn’t working for you is central to the programme and the science that underpins it, so don’t be afraid to pay close attention to the thoughts and feelings you notice as you work through the programme.
If you feel ready to get back in touch with sex again, check out how with the Blueheart app here.